Thinking out of your ass

You must have heard about the term 'talking out of your ass' but have you ever heard about the term 'thinking out of your arse'? Probably not, because I just made it. If you have heard it before, or made it yourself and want to claim it, let me know.

Talking out of your ass is pretty easy to spot, we do it, many times we realise it instantly or maybe a year later and regret it. But thinking out of you ass is tricky, you just never know when you are doing it because there is no reaction to it. There you are making up your own stories in your head by combining a dozen of 'what if's' and 'maybe' distorting the reality all because you do not just have the courage to ask directly, so you do they next best thing, make an assumption.

And we keep feeding this ball of assumption by making up new stories everyday about why things are happening to us, whatever it may be.

I am a thinker, I think and think ….......and then think some more. So you see, for me this 'thinking out of your ass' thing is a easy pit to fall in.Something like this recently happened with me, where I was just thinking out of my ass, making up stories, because I was too scared to just get out there and face it. But eventually I did face it, only to realise it wasn't all that negative after all. I misunderstood, simple enough?

Next time, when you are in doubt, JUST ASK. You don't know the direction, just ask. Yes, sometimes it makes you look stupid, been there done that. But then better be a stupid who had the courage to speak up then a stupid who just stuck to a mere assumption.

Next time you see someone behaving strange, ask them how they are before assuming they are jerks, maybe they are troubled....maybe..just maybe..they are not that bad after all. Give people a chance to speak up before thinking on behalf of them.

After all, if your glass is full, can you pour in more? Sometimes it's important to turn off the noises in your head to listen what is really happening outside.

Just remember turning them on back too....balance my friend, is the key.  

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