Wise Words

                    "Man - a being in search of meaning."
                                                          - Plato

Accepting Death

We all have said or heard the phrase 'he/she did not deserve to die'.  Like the recent masacre in Norway or any other incident similar to it have always raised a question - What was their fault? The people who were killed, all they ever did was to be at the wrong place on the wrong time. So why are they punished and taken away from their loved ones?

Even so the Wise Ones have always said - Death is not a punishment, it's inevitable and not a counterpart of life, but it is life in itself. 

People die of sickness, though not all the sickness lead to death, not all the accidents lead to death either.

It's funny how people always imagine death as darkness and the angels of death always in black robes, when the people who actually have had a near death experience always explain it as 'going into the light'

So it's useless to pity the dead. People don't die of 'faults', they do because it's just the way it is. I'm not saying don't be sad when someones dies, all these are just human emotions but its important to accept death the way it really is i.e not the opposite of life but just life.

If human beings are just lump of meat, then death may be the end, but they are not. Human beings are their ideas, we all are in fact a wonderful idea, an action, a reaction...a lingering thought or a relationship, without which our existence is unknown.

Wise Words

"Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will. "

                                      - George Bernard Shaw 

Evermore

Now I feel the thorns

I know the rose is close

Now I am rising with the waves

I can see the shore

Now I am closing

to open evermore 

Inspired by Mark Inglis

Heard about Mark Inglis? Mark is a mountaineer whose legs got severely frost-bitten and was amputated from below the knees in November 1982 when he got stuck in an ice cave on Aoraki/Mount Cook for 13 days due to an intense blizzard.

May 15, 2006 Mark became the first double amputee to climb Mount Everest. He and his wife Anne started a charity called 'Limbs for all' helping some 400 million disabled people around the globe. Mark is also a motivational speaker.

Mark's story is so inspiring, not only to the people who are disabled but to each and everyone, motivating us to be courageous and live our life to the fullest no matter what.

Of course you don't have to climb Mount Everest to be courageous, that was his passion. But be brave to follow your heart. Giving up when you encounter an obstacle only shows that you didn't want it enough. There should never be any fear of failing,  failure is only a state of mind.


"And one has to understand that being brave is not the absence of fear but rather the strength to keep on going forward despite the fear." 
— Paulo Coelho

Maslow made me think..

Abraham Maslow, American professor of psychology, proposed a theory in 1943 called Maslow's hierarchy of needs for his paper A Theory of Human Motivation. Like many other theories this is based on development psychology which focuses on stages of growth in human mind.

Instead of studying mentally challenged people, Maslow studied people who excelled in their fields like Albert Einstein, Jane Addams etc. he studied the 1% of healthiest college students. He believed that "the study of crippled, stunted, immature, and unhealthy specimens can yield only a cripple psychology and a cripple philosophy."


Now I don't study psychology, i'm just a fashion student who likes to ponder on many other things so i wont go into detail but just stick to the basics. 
According to Maslow there are 5 major stages of development, this picture will give you an idea- 

Well, the man's got a point, don't you think? I believe all these stages are present in human mind and may trigger itself in a given situation, but there is always one priority. A man who is not stable in 'physiological' matters will always give it more priority. Like i say, it's hard to put others in front of yourself with an empty stomach, even though there are some exceptionally kind people who still do. 
A man who has achieved those basic needs of food, clothing and shelter will progress in a more deeper level, seeking acceptance, self esteem and to the end self-actualization. 

Later on Victor Frankl who was a neurologist and psychiatrist added 'self-transcendence' as the last stage to this theory. That is of course the true nature of spirituality, going beyond what we see to what really is, being everything and nothing. 

Anyway, i definitely don't think this theory explains all the wonders of human mind, but it is something to think about. It's not a law that everyone lives by, but i cannot deny the fact that it makes sense. I found this very interesting and thought about sharing it here. 


But how do you explain it when some people have got more than enough of these 'basic needs' and they are still stuck in the rat race towards materialistic things that are mere illusion? If you have a roof on your head, food in your tummy, money in your wallet and the luxury to spend it as you want, isn't it enough to live happily? I guess these are the people who need help to open their heart to self actualization.
One of many way to know yourself is when you know other people. Everyone is here to serve a purpose and when they realize what it is, they stop feeling so lost. 


I like this quote by Albert Schweitzer- 
"I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing i do know: the only ones among you who will really be happy are those who have sought and found how to serve."

Honestly speaking..

NAME: Ruhi

AGE: 19

BIRTHDATE: December 12

WHAT WAS YOUR:

1. last beverage: water

2. last phone call: wishing mom happy birthday

3. last text message: by vodafone ( I know...sad)

4. last song you listened to: Nick Drake- Northern sky

5. last time you cried: can't remember, but it wasn't so long ago

HAVE YOU EVER:

6. dated someone twice: yes

7. been cheated on: yes

8. kissed someone & regretted it: yes

9. lost someone special: yes

10. been depressed: yes

11. been drunk and threw up: yes

 LIST THREE FAVORITE COLORS:

12. Pink

13. Black

14. Pale Lavender

LAST YEAR (2010), HAVE YOU:

15. Made a new friend: yes

16. Fallen out of love: yes

17. Laughed until you cried: yes

18. Met someone who changed you: my friends

19. Found out who your true friends were: yes

20. Found out someone was talking about you: no idea

21. Kissed anyone on your FB friend’s list: yes

GENERAL:

22. How many people on your FB friends list do you know in real life: 70%

24. Do you have any pets: 3 stray dogs

25. Do you want to change your name: No

26. What did you do for your last birthday: Elements club with mates

 27. What time did you wake up today: im still not asleep

28. What were you doing at midnight last night: sleeping

 29. Name something you CANNOT wait for: travelling the world, being rich and independent enough to help out people, fall in love

30. Last time you saw your Mother: like few hours ago

31. What is one thing you wish you could change about your life? Nothing

32. What are you listening to right now: sound of the fan

33. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom?: ..not sure..but I think I did

34. What’s getting on your nerves right now: mumbai bombblast

35. Most visited webpage: facebook, youtube, uni website

37. Nicknames: you dont wana know

38. Relationship Status: very much single

39. Zodiac sign: sagittarius

40. He or She: She looking for a He

41. Elementary: Tunu Munu (no I didnt make dat up)

42. High School: Carmel Sn Sec School

43. College: UCA and London college of fashion

44. Hair color: changes often right now red with bleached dip dye

45. Long or short: Long

46. Height: 5' 2 maybe

47. Do you have a crush on someone?: yes

48. What do you like about yourself?: im different :D  like everyone else 

49. Piercings: yes, ears 

50. Tattoos: yes, a big one one back, first but not the last 

FIRSTS :

52. First surgery: none

53. First piercing: ears

54  First Crush: australian cricketer nathan bracken

55. First sport you joined: nada

56. First vacation: cant remember

58. First pair of trainers: probably borrowed from my sister

RIGHT NOW: 

59. Eating: nothing

60. Drinking: nothing

61. I’m about to: try to sleep

62. Listening to: sound of the fan making love to the air

63. Waiting for: go back to U.K and shop

YOUR FUTURE:

64. Want kids?: if I can then y not

65. Get Married?: sounds good

WHICH IS BETTER :

67. Lips or eyes: Lips

68. Hugs or kisses: kisses

70. Older or Younger: older

71. Romantic or spontaneous: spontaneous

72. Nice stomach or nice arms: nice face

73. Sensitive or loud: sensitive

74. Hook-up or relationship: relationship...when im ready

HAVE YOU EVER :

76. Kissed a stranger: yes

77. Drank hard liquor: yes

78. Lost glasses/contacts: YES!

80. Broke someone’s heart: yes :(

81. Had your own heart broken: yes, karma is a bitch

82. Been arrested: no

83. Turned someone down: yes

84. Cried when someone died: yes

85. Fallen for a friend: yes

DO YOU BELIEVE IN:

86. Yourself: more than anything else

87. Miracles: life is full of them

88. Love at first sight: yes

89. Heaven: where ever there is love, there is heaven

90. Santa Clause: there are few kind, fat old men with beard

91. The World Ending in 2012: No

92. Angels: yes

PS - No i was not asked to do this by anyone, i did this cause i was bored :) you should try it out add more question if you like. 

I am You

I peek through your wandering sight

A busy day, a lonely night

like a star in a cloudy sky

I live in you

When you seek the answer

in laughter and mourn

pray to awake the unknown

look inside, I live in you

I'll make you fall and make you rise

I'll make you see the truth and lies

I'll hold your hand until you find

I am you